Dating a recovered alcoholic aa meetings
AA has done such a good job of selling alcoholism as an uncontrollable disease, maybe people believe that you can just slip off (like Lee Remick in Days of Wine and Roses) into oblivion.I commend you for not dating primarily fellow recovering alcoholics. Because then your life would be totally circumscribed by alcohol, its avoidance, the issue of alcoholism, etc. And, given that you don’t belong to any movement for recovery, it seems you don’t want to devote your life to group meetings and fellow alcoholics.I wonder why you say you are recovering from alcoholism, however.That, in fact, makes it sound like you subscribe to AA and disease theory.It is strongly advised that they remain focused on themselves until their sobriety is strong.Once they are settled in their new life, they can then begin to consider sharing it with somebody else.During the past two decades, I’ve dated both men in recovery and men who weren’t alcoholics (called “normies” by us in the program).I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?
However, this sound bit of wisdom is rarely heeded.Further Reading Dear Stanton, I hope this is a question you can field, I didn’t see one like it with the others.I am a twenty-three year old college student, who has been recovering from alcoholism for over two years.Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but assuming that we would not want our emotional and mental well-being to hinge on a miracle, is it worth the risk?But this is not what the recovering addict is thinking about.